I basically started writing this theme because I was actually suffering from all those symptoms. Yes I am not at all going to be shy or uncomfortable in accepting that every single growing year was beginning to tell on me. If not the wrinkles or the white hair then surely yes the mental calm.
I felt hurried down the path of maturity. Getting married early had its perks but the downsides were somethings I couldn’t disagree with. I was running a house a job and a new life called ‘married’. Initially I went berserk. I used to often break down because I was sleep deprived, I had a gruesome routine at work and everything around me was still same. Being the first one to have gotten married I could see my friends still having fun. Going out partying, enjoying home cooked food and what not.
I was twenty six and watching running television ads of Olay. Of hair colour and yes not to forget fairness creams. You are not getting any younger, all of them screaming into my face.
Harrowed, harried, Hurried, hating.
Yes I was twenty five and suddenly dreading the thought of another year. Another reminder that you are getting old. You are no longer a happy twenty.
I might like to say these bouts of breakdowns have gotten over. I would simply lie. I am writing these posts as my mind speaks. As it evolves and perhaps today it didn’t feel like saying, ‘its okay. This too shall pass.” Perhaps it simply wanted to say, “This too shall pass. But well that will also take sometime.”
I am going to turn around and ask you, what was the most frustrating thing about being a mid-twenty. If you are yet to reach that stage, tell us what is it that you dread the most? Also I want to know what you made of the quote I wrote in the image today? Lets see how many of you got it right 🙂
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Pressure of having a baby! There’s nothing more scary than that!
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Hahahaha I soooo loved your post! I am sorry for not been able to keep up with all A-to-Z but I will finish my work later 😀
First things first, you really got married early and have lived a brave life. Its not easy to manage everything at such a tender age. Also my friends who got married early used to feel the same. I have heard a lot from them that I have lived my single-hood to the maximum- travelling, enrolling into various subjects, doing whatever I want to without a plan, without any responsibility! But these are also important, every phase is… Thirties too might be- for me at least my parents allow me to travel on my own now! 😀
P.S. That image made me laugh… I am still thinking that moment will pass, or the one will pass or the terror will pass!!! 😛
Loved your post. I thought managing work and home was the scariest. (I work in a 24/7 project which is I got to work even on night shifts, very early mornings or late afternoons. I may not get Sunday as holiday and I rarely meet by Husband cos of this! But now I agree with Naba, pressure of being asked, “Its high time that you think of a baby”- Oh Really???? Humph!
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Looking back, I was always scared of just one thing “To live a life, I didn’t want to , Live with a person cos I HAVE to”
I am sure you know what I meant 🙂
Just chill. Looks like you need a break from worries :-)…
This too shall pass, and I must say that you should enjoy your 20’s while they are here because before you even know what happened you will be in your 40’s wondering what you will do when you reach 50. Enjoy each day as if it were you last! ♥
I don’t think I can remember that long ago LOL. I may have told you this but I was told I had two years to live when I was in my twenties, so that consumed all my energy — that was over 45 years ago! Great post BTW
I am still under the pressure to get married. You land a job and boom! They ask you to get married. I am just 24
and the quote simply means that whatever happens, in your worst possible time, just remember that this phase shall pass too!
I moved from one continent to another in my mid-twenties, changed my role from being a teacher to being a PhD student, and yes was married too – to someone who did the exact same thing – left a well paying job to become a poor PhD student…talk about pressures! Hey, I like the “rant” feel of your post. Well done! The photograph is very apt 🙂
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:O I am scared already about the future.. but then life must go on!!!
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OLAY ads! hell man! they are dreadful 🙂 contrary to your own thoughts on early marriage, i being single at the point when my friends are inviting me for baby showers, receive this constant nagging that “beta shaadi kab kar rahi ho”
Honestly didnt dread anything about Mid 20s 🙂
I got married pretty late so I would say that my mother’s frenzied groom hunt because I was almost 30 and still not married was really nerve wrecking for me.
Good read.The onlything I recall was I enjoyed my life ,didnt have a worry. Married my sweet heart and had the cutest baby girl at 29.
I am currently in the mode of this too shall pass… and I hope it passes soon.
Change is the only constant 🙂 Nothing remains the same and this too shall pass…tell me how you feel about turning 50, because I just did and I feel great 🙂
For me it is also what Nabanita mentioned. Gosh, what scary and frustrating years, three to be precise!! 😐
I remember only milestones in my life. Somehow it is difficult to remember exact year-wise .
Mid-20s, I guess, wanted to not let go of youth and yet reach wisdom.
This too shall pass has to be one of my favorite one liners in times of crisis! I guess too many things happening too early did catch on to you …Can’t figure out what you wanted us to make out of the pic though…;)
Too far back for me to remember, Richa! But I do remember them as being real fun days – working and enjoying the independence that brought.
I married very early, 23, and the first year was very demanding. I was working, running a house, doing the housework and all the errands. I didn’t slow down. I didn’t know how. But, from the year, I gained valuable lessons. Such that they keep me in good stead even today.
Everything does pass, the good n the not so good. I enjoyed my mid twenties, and mid-thirties and I will enjoy my Mid everything’s till I a Mid-kick the bucket haha
For me, a lot of the pressure I felt in my 20s was worrying about when – or if – I was going to get married. I didn’t end up getting married until I was 32, which meant that I escaped much of the pressure people in their 20s get about when they’re going to have a baby. 🙂
the time when I went for a career transformation was a frustrating period…
it was the time when I choose to drop the idea of working as an engineer and going full time with writing… not Dad, not Mom but my siblings were irritating me with the “gyaan” that I should do a stable job and get myself into IT only… my aunt even said “nobody will give away their daughter for a Writer… ” and I was like “Whaaat…. you are so funny Masi… ” Haha…
But then again it’s family, when I got my first handsome salary… they were happier than me…
This too shall pass is one of my favourite quotes. Helps me through any difficult moments of my life. I don’t remember being afraid in my 20s I just had a great time.
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I was glad I did not marry till my late twenties.. got to enjoy that independent life that you are talking about.. but then everything has its share of ups and lows… but mostly I guess its that thought of settling down and not being able to be as carefree anymore.. that would unsettle me 🙂
I got married when I was 22 ..and it was my own will for it was taking a toll on both of us to leave separately 😛 . You can still enjoy life to the fullest , explore new things and enjoy much independence ….yes..even after marriage ..and age is just a number..don’t worry… the real age resides in one’s mind ..and as someone has said , you’re only that much old as you feel 🙂 …
Agree with Maniparna’s thoughts as above.
Can identify with your post, with all those ads screaming at our face 🙂