Most of the mid-twenties begin to complain of depression, a strange sense of emptiness, loneliness.
It has a lot of reasons.
Friends have all moved on and taken up responsibilities like you
Paucity of time adds on to the sense of being lonely
Everything you had imagined has either gotten over or gone bad
And thirty is not the age you had thought of planning or enjoying
But then why not dust away these reasons and along with it this deep rooted sense of loneliness.
Here is what I often do.
Create lots of whatsapp groups. And add old friends. Make sure you take out at least half an hour each day to connect. Those of you who don’t like whatsapp as such, perhaps a phone call every week. Idea is to stay connected.
Remember that work and life can wait for you. If you don’t have time for yourself, what is the use of everything that you do? Every day take out half an hour again to do something you enjoy. And do it for yourself.
If everything you had imagined has either gotten over or gone bad then plan new things. Create another dream, another challenge for yourself and work towards it. Remember life is a constant work in progress.
Thirty is not what you planned on enjoying? Well had you not planned on enjoying twenty? Have you or are you enjoying it? So nothing goes as per plans. And thirty will be awesome again because it is not planned!
Have you been lonely? Have you found days of depression always increasing? Tell us what you do to dust them away?
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just the thought of getting separated from friends aftr graduation brings a lump in my throat 🙁 though promises are always made to stay in touch!
Well My I always stay in touch with my friends and am blessed by these angles who are still the same even when we talk after months or a year ! I guess once u make a bond of friendship its lifetime 🙂
WHATSAPP has definitely been a savior!!
I dont know I never felt lonely.
I actually like being alone so I never feel lonely…Strange I know!
L for loved-Random Thoughts Naba
I like to meet friends and get together every once in a while but I like being alone and I love being in my own company too. So, loneliness is not that worries me much!
I rarely feel lonely. I guess I have always been kind of a loner and enjoy my own company a little too much! ♥
Being lonely – yes, sometimes affects one. I find getting involved into hobbies better than whatsapp. That kills me :-).
Nice post.. I have a different take on this though… I do love the company of my best friends, I meet them whenever I can, but when I can’t I don’t seek them on whatsapp or Facebook… instead I enjoy being with me.. actually it feels awesome if you maintain the right balance of meeting your friends and meeting yourself.. 🙂
Amritt
Yes there are times when you feel lonely and there are times when you want to be left alone! For me I need that time with myself from time to time. Like you have mentioned I have this habbit of being in touch with all my relatives (including distant ones) and friends. I guess it happens with people at different age. With me my first pang of lonliness happened at 19 and after that I learned to live by myself mostly without expectations. Glad we have FB, Whatsapp and chat messangers!
The only solution to stop feeling lonely is not to surround yourself with more people, rather to enjoy your own company. Also, with reference to people, it is best eliminate (no matter how difficult) everyone who makes you feel lonely.
The 2 AM Writer
If ones thoughts are positive, there will be loneliness. I have very few friends, who are close,the question of being lonely does’nt arise. Whats app is only for messages.
friends are left behind as we move forward in life.. thanks for the technology that helps us in staying connected..
I’ve been alone for a long time in life, as a single child, that is. But loneliness is more of an emotional state of mind. Friends are always around to make us feel good, and now Whatsapp is a great saviour 😀
Whatsapp has helped bridge a lot of gaps, without being too intrusive 🙂 Chin up, people. There is life beyond 30 🙂
I like being alone.. gives me time to think and do things for myself. I do stay connected with my friends once a week though. 🙂
Its tough to be in connect, bit according to me, if you appreciate that person’s company, you will make time no matter what..!
I knoww.. Mid twenties is such a lonely time. “Almost everything has been done and over with. In most cases associated with some bad experiences. And the good ones come with a sure shot tag of ‘never coming back” – Says it all But yes, whatsapp has been such a saviour !!
Well said… I relate to the emotions that you are experiencing. That said. I am on the other side of 30 and honestly this side is really great! You come into your own and become a much more stable human being, which in turn lets you enjoy life totally.
Missed your posts for a while. Glad to have tracked them back. Lonely time – I can correlate now itself 🙁 Anyways, I think this too shall pass!
~S(t)ri Writes