Identity crisis is one of the initial symptoms of being a mid-twenty. You are neither there nor here. Parents often treat you as a kid when they feel they should and for all other responsible times please welcome the adult to the family.
Speaking of younger ones, they find you boring and not cool (because you dared say ‘kewl’) and the idea of growing up has gotten scarred watching what it did to you. (I have heard this, so yes I can contest its validity :D)
But jokes apart, being a mid-twenty is all about being conflicted. You are at the brink of settling down (Read marriage and kids) and yet there is something bohemic about you. Often that one last road trip that is left or a guitar class which had to continue or perhaps that lost love which needs a chance. So much left and so much to do.
Identity crisis has its deepest root in twenties.
What can one do to evade it perhaps outlast it.
1. Realise that change is inevitable and so is permanency. No matter how much the times grow on you, a part of you will remain same. So while embracing change do not let the kewl get out of the heart 😀
2. If it was really about the decade you grow then many of us would be prehistoric pieces kept in museums well it is not. So live the decades as they come and remember you make decades not decades make you 😀
3. Create a space where you exist as such. Irrespective of times and age. Make growing up irrelevant.
4. Now sit back, rest and relax. Drink a cup of tea or so. Read the above three points again, what did you notice? Come on don’t be afraid, accept it. Yes you got it, they are all same.
Why did I write the same thing thrice ? To drill the point home.
Decades don’t make you, you make decades. Age doesn’t come in your way, you can come in its way thought. And lastly don’t get lost in discovering yourself, remember there is always a name to revert to.
Be you. Be cool. Be kewl.
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It’s a “kewl” post!
Yep, being yourself is the coolest thing you can do 🙂 Good one, Richa!
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It’s funny how we all seem to have this “identity crisis” at every decade. I remember going through it in my 20s and now in my 30s I sometimes do it again. Let’s live in the present moment and enjoy it…expecting each decade to be better than the last!
I just hit 30 in March this year, I still feel extremely kewl! lol
“Kewl” Richa writes another COOL post 😉
This was a kewl post and since I have lived through the twenties…I know what you are talking about and how you are feeling. You aren’t young anymore and you aren’t old either.
Cool post…and yeah, never should one forget that they must stay cool in their skin and not try to alter with time. Twenties, thirties or forties…whatever be the age.
Feeling cool has less to do with age and loads to do with attitude. So whether you’re 20 or 30 or 40… Cool is in your head.. Right Richa?
Your blog is turning into a ‘SELF HELP’ blog where we can come for a daily dose of inspiration. AND THIS IS A GENUINE COMPLIMENT!
Be yourself! I like that…
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Kewl post 🙂 And cool picture there too! But is it really a word though? 🙂 I must be getting too old….
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Kewl or Cool is what you decide. 😉 I think maybe identity crises go on forever; I’m 61 and though I know who I am, I am still going through yet another identity crisis. Very nice entry.
Do something you love, where time and age don’t matter…Well said Richa! You know in dance classes being one of the eldest (my batch has kids aged 12-28) I often joke that there should be a senior citizen discount 😉 But jokes apart it really dosen’t matter when I twirl and slpit and jump with the same gusto as these kids!
Love the message and the pic is great!
And we can do all the things we want to at any age. I took up karate at the age of 48. Love the message in this post.
Oh yes! Who ever said I’m old? I’m a young 48 year old! 😉
I loved that sentence, “Decades don’t make you, you make decades”. This line is my takeaway from your post, because you described exactly the turmoil I was going through, the last couple of months. Hell, I even thought I was hitting the big M (at 30!) 😛
Two things….one whenever i type S in my link bar in chrome, it shows subzeroricha rather than showing something-sugandha…a sure sign of the fact that i visit your blog more than i visit mine…
Seconds – I need to meet you…with the gyaan that is flowing here…i think i might get a thing or two right about approaching dreaded thirty if i spend some time with you…
Third (i know there wasn’t suppose to be a third point) another good post 🙂
so much to learn from you…. I mean your words…. lovely posts… I loved 11 out of 11… 🙂
//Decades don’t make you, you make decades.// that really drilled home 🙂 yet another beautifully articulated post
This is ‘Kewl’, Ma friend 😀 Our decades make us, and we are three times made by the time we reach 30 🙂 Loved the post, Richa 🙂
Haha loved reading these posts..they get better..I must admit I missed a few letters 🙁 will go back and read the missing ones now!
Really a kewllll post…..