And it didn’t quite get up to the levels you had planned.
One of the most depressing parts about being a mid twenty-something is that the plans have now matured and yes they haven’t turned out quite as you hoped them to be.
I know it happened with me. I was planning on making it very big in life, things I had hoped no one would ever dream of achieving. But that didn’t happen. I followed a trajectory almost everyone around me did. If I may permit myself to say so, even fell short of that too.
This thought starts to boggle us down. We imagine ourselves doing much worse in thirties because the start itself has been low. We are behind in race already.
Here I would add a thought.
Life is not a hundred metres race. It is a marathon and the turning points in it are not the initial starts but the steady pace of movement.
Remember how you planned on your twenties? Day dreaming, etching points full of passion and what not? Well do the same for your thirty now. Believing it to be another chance at finding the final goal post.
What did I not do?
I of course planned on starting my own enterprise, I failed.
I thought I would have traveled more than what I have now.
I realised somewhere I suffered because I didn’t make it to a tier one college.
What will I do now!
I have realised I lack a business sense, but I am good on my own kind of person. Will plan on a writing future
I couldn’t travel a lot because I never had the right company. And perhaps lacked the passion for solo trips. Perfect husband has now come along 😀
I made it to a great job where almost every one around me is from a tier one college, will make good use of this opportunity 🙂
You tell us what future had you planned? Did it remain on track? If yes then share your points, if not then what did you do to correct it?
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I don’t know..strange thing is I never planned so much for the future and now that I’m in it I feel I should have planned more..makes sense?
Random Thoughts Naba
I am a planner but this trait is more developed now then it was in my twenties. The only thing I planned was being on my own which thankfully happened. ::)
I hope the thirties teaches you the value of not comparing yourself to others and reveling in your uniqueness! 🙂
Again a great post Richa. I too felt the pinch probably not passing out from the best of B schools. But I still dream…plan and am very happy at the juncture that I stand. I have realised what I have others don’t…and I have the best!
Hey Richa I applaud you for trying to start your own enterprise, we all dream of so many things, but few can try to do it.
All the best with your enterprise Richa! As for me, I studied to be a dentist, and had my future quite clear in my mind. Then life happened, and I am now a writer and a professional baker 🙂
I’m a CA, and I thought I’ll have my own practice after working for some years and gathering the capital. But I was destined to fly out into this alien land and earn my B&B here….. I’m now ready to take my thirties as they come !
Great, thoughtful post, Richa !!
Sreeja Praveen
I started seriously thinking about my goals and how I wanted my life to be only after I turned thirty. I think I spent a good part of my twenties confused, doing what people told me to, fighting unnecessarily and yet losing all my battles. Thank God I’m past all that!
That is tactical and beautiful living sweetheart!
I wonder what my plans are. SIGH!
Life has given me much more than I ever planned to achieve…somethings that I used to dream of but never inculcated them in planning have come true. I think my life is pretty fair but all said and done, there are still few things I would have liked to turn my way by now, but they didnt and I have to now live with it.
Sometimes not planning for the future is the best 🙂 When I was in college I had plans for joining a good software company and raking in the big bucks. And now that I am doing it, I find that it’s not the place for me 🙁 Sigh! so back to square one!
Planning is good. But there is also wisdom in going with the flow of life…o gosh, I am sound so 50 now 🙂 And I ain’t 50 yet!
Good post, Richa! Do make sure that your husband sees the part about the “perfect husband” 😉
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I too had made a lot plans.. All big shot ones.. Hoping I will do this and that. There are no end to dreams.. But as I am growing up, I am realizing that everything we wish isn’t easy!!
Swathi
I don’t have any big future plans 🙁 All plans were just for the forthcoming one year or so!! High time that I think about future!
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Feel I have done a good mix of planning, but still making room for the twists and turns that make life … life… Sometimes in positive directions and sometimes somewhere you would rather not have gone..
I had a plan … But I suck at planning … So now I am living
whatever happens happens for the good 🙂
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I guess none of us really have lived out our plans and the same is with me.. what’s that say that goes…. Man proposes, God disposes
Sometimes things do not go according to your plan but that doesn’t always mean good things are not happening Richa. Hope the thirties bring all that you desire.
Live your life to the fullest! Most of the things do not happen as planned. Lovely post there! It made me think! 🙂
I learnt in my early 20s that I may plan everything but Life makes other plans for you and that it’s okay. Sometimes, not getting what you want may be the best thing that ever happened to you 🙂 This journey through your late 20s is fascinating, Richa 🙂
~Shailaja
I guess most of my dreams are getting fulfilled… but still there are few I am working on… One being to publish a book 🙂
The Universe makes sure my plans are all erased and replaced with its plans. So now I just go with the flow and enjoy life.
true words…m sure making new plans and cooking up new dreams.
Some things did work out as per the plan and some didnt. But now, I believe in making the best use of the present and it all falls in place, sooner or later! 🙂
Once I used to repent not having brain of thirtees during my twenties… then I could have done things differently :-). Don’t do it now…I do feel that I squandered opportunities but now need to make good of what I have around. Future seems to be calling me and I have slight disagreement that it says nothing :-).
Planning is of course required for accomplishment.But sometimes we have read out of the text and we do it also.Nice thuoghts.
This year I want to finally start letting go of everything that’s holding me back. I want to get serious about write. I got a job that lets me write. So I don’t know where it is headed. But I’m guessing I’m doing okay.
The 2 AM Writer
Life is full of twists and turns and rarely goes exactly as planned. Looking back now, (age 59), I know some mistakes were made, but overall, there are few regrets. You have lots of time yet to accomplish what you set out to do! 🙂
My life turned out very differently from what I envisioned on graduation day. With that said, I have no regrets about the direction my life took to get where I am today. I am OK with it. ♥
In my 20s I would never have foreseen where life would take me… but I’m ok with where I am. 🙂
I never thought life would have been this way. .. three yrs before. But it is…
Perfect. Brought out a spirited question. Time to think.
Nope, no idea.. i guess just take the course life takes you on 🙂
Uhhh…. intense topic. I kind of fit in this post, feeling like sharing my own story. Thank you Richa for sharing it 🙂
Richa, I do believe that sometimes the best things in life come to us through happenstance. I can’t remember where I read this but it stuck with me – Life is what happens when you’re too busy making plans. 🙂
Enjoy every day of your 20s!
I planned to join some MNC after engineering, but my mother’s “100 days at hospital” episode was an eyeopener for me… I became a freelance writer so as to stay with my parents as much as I want and I am doing pretty good, there is growth in the writing industry…
The point is life is unpredictable, and doing the best with what are you are left is the real challenge, you got to take that challenge and nail it.. Great Post Richa…
Amritt