So you all know how I have been transferred this month to Pune. All the way from Lucknow, flying 1500 kms away I reach the land of youth. Ironically it makes me feel more old.
Because the world is hell bent on judging all us mid-twenties on our idea of being ‘settled’. This includes:
This more is what often gets to me most. More can be how clean and well maintained your house is or how much of gold jewelry you received in your wedding. How many times your husband surprised you with rose petals on your bed and you updated the same on all social media sites. Arghhhh.
Are you too unsettled while going down the path of being settled? I now pronounce you mid and twenty, you may crib about life.
Take it slow. Yes they will bombard you with their expectations and ‘motivations’ but the trick is to turn deaf for a while.
Remember every once in a while a moment of deep unsettling emotion will rise, remember you are not to turn a reactive nose to it. Ignore and this too shall pass
Creating your world is your prerogative, others may take a hike. Suggest them a good place too, say moon?
If it feels unsettling remember it cannot be something called settled.
Tell us what made you more unsettled yet at the onset looked like you are one step closer to being settled? Share with us your stories of these times.
If you are taking part in A-Z blogging challenge this April, then do leave your blog link in comments, will surely link it up with my posts. Thanks!
I wasn’t quite sure if you are saying that you feel “settled” in your mid-20s or if you’re railing against people who think you ‘should’ be settled by now. It’s hard, isn’t it — living by expectations, whether your own, or your family or culture or whatever. When I was in my mid-20s I was far from being settled! Nice to meet another blogger in the A to Z challenge.
hahah being Settled is just a state of mind. For some it feels settled when they get a job. For some marriage. For me, I don’t believe in settling. For me settling happens after retirement when you have accomplished everything that you wanted to. Being settled indirectly stops u from making changes because it might risk your stable life. Why would I want to be settled. 😀
Confusing! I think it was when I had to monitor the kitchen for the first time in my life
T for Tired-Random Thoughts Naba
Someone is quietly settling down in a new city and unsettling us with these Qs! 😉
Well I am far from being settled….but I don’t feel unsettled rather quite content, all that I am doing and the way life is turning out!! Much love dear! 🙂
Settled…hmmm . I am trying to settle my kitchen from a long time. So bad at keeping home clean n tidy.
I sometimes feel am settling to the fact that I am married 🙂
I know people who are over 35 and are still not settled…I guess it’s all in one’s perspective!
Whatever u mentioned. Every thing made me feel unsettled,
Marriage is not settlement. It is permanent invitation to unsettlement in my opinion 🙂
I think this so called ‘settled’ is a continuous and never ending process… marriage, home, kids, car, good school, good college, great job, higher package, bigger car, marriage of your children… it goes on and on…. 😀
Nice question Richa, I think settlement is mostly a misnomer. Just out of college, the question of settlement is a job, then a higher pay package, once you are above 25-26 the question is about marriage, early 30’s is about kids, then they going to school and then their marks cards, high scores.. .I guess the list goes on. I wonder why even people ask about settlement in life, I mean isn’t struggle the only form of life?
I totally agree with Vinay… May be settling is just a feeling but never reality. The moment we feel we are settled something else comes up in our mind and the definition settled would require a revision. Even if a 60 plus man says he is well settled in life, I would only presume he has a good job, financially stable and good family life.. but having these can you call a person settled?