Ahh so now this is very interesting. Anyone who is a midtwenty in todays world and says they have not had what we would happily like to call ‘ a failed relationship’ may have so far not shook their heads in affirmation on any of my posts. Because my friend you are from Mars or venus (place your gender accordingly!) not mother EARTH.
Yesterday I was browsing through my facebook TL when someone who was quite ‘interested’ in me at one point had put up a couple picture. Not married and hence deeply in love. I quickly turned around the laptop and showed the picture to my husband. And yes all I had to ask was, “Is she prettier than me?”
He laughed, he knows such things are regular with me 😀 and of course promptly nodded his head in a negative.
Ex loves are almost as good a part of a mid-twenty as breathing air is to life.
But yes the degree to which this affects us is quite a bit.
Let us list somethings that we often take to heart when it comes to our exes.
Emotional baggage. Things they have wronged which you can never forgive. Trust me they make you a worse person and in turn affect your life more than the initial intention. Let go.
You hate them. I can somehow never get over this. When people say they hate their exes I feel sorry for them. Is that how trivial their idea of love was? To brush it underneath the carpet as quickly as this?
Should I still be friends with them? I would say STRICTLY NO. At times for your own peace of mind much less theirs. Let it be, maintain a cordial relationship but please don’t put them on speed dials for love advice.
Hope. Yes last but not the least hope of rekindling relationship have seen many go down the wrong way. It has always mostly made things worse. So until you are absolutely sure (perhaps not even then) then stay clear of this course.
Have you faced a similar thing? Have loves of yore flooded your life too?
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Hey Richa, this is so true. 🙂 happens with me too !
‘Is she prettier than me?’ Haha! Typical us! Wonder what men ask when they see their ex married/in love!
Hating your ex is like hating your choices and having regrets. That shouldn’t be the case at all. Things happen for a reason and we should just stop thinking at that. Hope, friendship and emotional baggage will not really let us live in peace and we should really try to let go…
I just have one X…and he got married. and I dumped him so the ‘Is she prettier than me?’ never came up. 😀 😛
I never had an Ex 😀 So cannot really relate to this one. But the same is true of all relationships, I suppose. Not hating, letting go and hoping.
luckily me and hubby love our children more than we dislike each other! Nice to meet and follow through #atozchallenge. http://aimingforapublishingdeal.blogspot.co.uk/2014/04/x-is-for-x-rated.html
Never had any ex…but hubby did…hmphhh…initial dating years there was a lot of ‘how was she’ and ‘what the hell you saw in her anyway! 😉
X must remain in the past and there shouldn’t be any contact with her/him once you move on. Forgive and forget if you want to live a happy life 🙂
LOL, Facebook has a way of bringing all sorts of people back into your life… some who might be better off remaining in the past!
All I can say is, beware of Facebook! Heh. I see a lot of my friends continue to be friends with their ex-es and have an absolutely good relationship with them. Which goes to show, both are mature enough to let go and move on, yet value the friendship they share.
Hmm… Good Points there. I just reached 40 and even I can identify with this. Although mine can’t be called ex loves, they were ex crushes. Most of them might not even remember me now. But yes, I know the feeling! I don’t think “Is she prettier?” now. I think ” Is she ageing well?”. 😉
LOL @ Jyothi’s comment above, “Is she ageing well?” 😀
Friendship with exes depends on the maturity level of both the parties. Otherwise, it is a sure shot recipe for trouble and heart-aches! 🙂
‘Is she prettier than me?’ Haha! 😛
A typical woman! 😀
Nice post, Richa!