Recently I observed an update on the top right corner of my Facebook home page. It said, ‘Facebook has begun relationship status testing tools for engagement with exes’. One can only assume what went through my mind. A vicarious simulation of these interactions, if any so called ‘exes’ decided to haunt back.

You can tell so much about a person by the way they leave you, but learn so much more about yourself by the way you move on.

I have had my fair share of break ups, in relationships and friendships equally. 

People whom I treasured, allowed them to create a world in my heart, made me do all sorts of stupid things sometimes to be with them and sometimes to make sure they be with me.

But like all good things saw them disintegrate, more number of times as people than relationships.

Like mirages on a hot summer afternoon.

I confess I have been a rather closed person when it comes on the subject of such things. Healing is very internal and lonely in my case. And it is something that has always been a hallmark of my existence.

It was a warm sunny afternoon in Pune followed by a surprise but welcome night shower. And in the backdrop of all this were thoughts.

Break-ups are never happy. They can be liberating, yes. But not happy. Which is the most selcouth.

Liberating.

They say the same about confessions as well.

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Tonight I confess three things I learned from such departures about myself.

I confess I hate the blame game. I hate the idea that I may have contributed to the fall out in anyway. Guilt is forever the last emotion I need in such encounters.

I confess I am not the best person to break up with. I offer no emotional support in any way.

I confess I have always found all such events more liberating than sad. An idea that has remained with me almost always.

So I repeat again:

You can tell so much about a person by the way they leave you, but learn so much more about yourself by the way you move on

P. S we took this line from Aditi’s latest post: #SaturdayWordplay 8 : Selcouth and for which we are ever so grateful and hence linking up our own blog with the prompt’s linky.

What can we know about you in this case? Does this line provoke you to think? What memories did this bring about today?

P.P.S this is also written for Blogchatter‘s ongoing prompt- ‘Can I confess’ which is inspired by Sid Balachandran’s almost viral post by same name 🙂

P.P.P.S This week we are also co-hosting Write Tribe’s #MondayMusings again! Join Corinne, Vidya and me by writing a #MondayMusings post on your blog. Just share your thoughts with us – happy, sad, philosophical, ‘silly’ even. Use the hashtag #MondayMusings and then add your link here or on the Write Tribe post. We would love to read your thoughts.


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