Now the term rules of engagement is obviously taken from military parlance that define the circumstances, conditions, degree, and manner in which the use of force, or actions which might be construed as provocative, may be applied.
Stress of course is on provocative.
Life is also a maze of these conflicts. Often more provoked than otherwise. And by nature we need to engage, fight, retreat and at times give up.
Tonight my mind flutters to these self-conflicts and the so called ‘rules’ we apply to fight them. To engage with them.
Term engagement is obviously a healthy term. It is not exactly fighting. And seems only logical that it should emanate so beautifully correct from military. Where conflict more number of times than others, has meaning.
Coming back to subject. Rules of engaging with self-conflicts. Yes, the troubled inner voice which has the horns pricking its halos. All the time.
How to deal with the enemy who sleeps within us?
To begin with, conflicts are often due to an overactive hindsight. Man by nature has a brain, an overactive one. And also a computer of infinite past data, mistakes, bad choices, etc. The end result is, self-doubt and self-conflicts.
It is literally the classic case of Dr Jekyll and Mr. Hyde. In loops.
They say world is nothing but a manifestation of butterfly effect. A flutter here and a storm there.
Treat your life the same. Imagine your one little thought inducing the same effect. Self-doubt and self-conflicts– no matter how small, how random and how insignificant in that very moment, always leave their scars.
But again, how to deal with this? How to engage? What rules?
That’s my friend pushing back a car which
blocked our way out of work 😀
Tonight we suggest a very small exercise. No gyaan, no flowery words, we call for action!
Identify a tiny little activity from twenty four hours of your life which you would do your way. Give it as little as fifteen minutes of your time, if it is a very busy life you have there 🙂 And when we say fifteen minutes we mean no multi-tasking, in fact specially no multi tasking.
Now go and carry on with your life simply as usual. Morning. Noon and night.
But with a slight twist.
Every single time there is a sense of doubt or conflict, instantly switch on the default mode. Put your mind back to those fifteen minutes, plan the day’s fifteen minutes, ponder over yesterdays and slowly allow the brain to be normal. Back to the cupcake on side 😀
All life at times needs is a better algorithm. Better rules if I may say. And life will not do it without little help from you. See how wonderfully active these fifteen minutes impact rest of your day. Butterfly effect 🙂
We need you to identify your day’s fifteen minutes right now. Don’t tell us. In fact tell no one. Tell yourself and simply follow it 🙂
Some news first, so Blogchatter trended in India today ie Wednesday 🙂 This news and snapshot is courtesy @detectivebatsy who informed us of this 🙂
Do follow Blogchatter for some interesting insights on blogging and everything under it. In addition you can tune in every Wednesday at 8.30 PM IST for a fun filled chat session by same name on twitter.
If you are new to this concept we will explain you. We run a twitter chat every Wednesday at 8.30 PM IST on everything related to blogging. Like this week we chatted up for more than an hour on ‘Engagement without Social Media’. It was too much fun! And we had an overflowing number of tweets everywhere. So we trended, right? 😀
Aditi and I are co-hosting the Blogchatter prompt this week. The prompt this time is ‘Rules of Engagement’. If you find it interesting enough to write, then go ahead create a post and add your post in linky below 🙂
The fifteen minute ‘Mantra’ is going to go viral, I predict! It is such a relevant and plausible course to follow. Feeling motivated and inspired. If you find me off the grid for a while, its just that I’ll be at my solitary 15-minute contemplative retreat. Lovely words Richa!!
Thanks Kala 🙂 Viral or not even if five people follow I believe I have done my bit to the world 🙂
This is interesting Richa…I’ll try this..In fact I need this with everything being altered and reset in my life these days..I’m trying hard to set a pattern where all that I want to do blends in naturally with all that I have to do…Maybe this 15 minutes ritual will help me in this… 🙂
Oh yes Naba you need it all the more now, to make some sense of the sudden change and the overthrow of routine that must have come about 😀
So true, at times all we need is a better algorithm, a few bended rules to make things happen your way. I need to practice this, the current over-burnt state that I am in. Thank you for such a simple, yet powerful mantra of engaging with oneself! 🙂
Exactly! We are so overburnt these days that fifteen minutes of an idea like this can definitely calming..
very nicely written . Happy to see that blog chatter trended . Will try to follow the 15 minutes rule
Please do and tell me how it went!
Now this is inspiring 🙂 15 Minute rule May work for even my chaotic mind- lemme try
Do and tell me how it went 🙂
I’ve added my link and am quite intrigued by Blogchatter. What is it? A
Blog hop? A blogging platform/ forum?
It is a twitter community, follow the handle @blogchatter and you will figure out what it is 🙂
Hey Richa, So so glad about #BlogChatter trending , though not surprised at all. It was a mad mad one hour.Super fun. Also I did write on the prompt but missed the deadline on adding the link , Here it is .. https://theaddress.wordpress.com/2015/12/02/rules-of-engagement/
I like the 15 minute mantra. It is what we all need. 🙂
That 15 minute activity is so perfect. It’s something we all must follow and slowly increase the time from 15 minutes to say 1 hour a day maybe if possible and longer on weekends.
By the way congrats on Blogchatter trending. I am sure the day is not far when it’s going to trend internationally :).