It’s only words and words are all I have, to take your heart away

As the famous Boyzone song goes, I too have a similar tune to sing to you. Through an impromptu drive, I created a Proust Questionnaire and put it out there for all you strange (but honest) people to fill. And the results have been astonishing. So much to learn, to imbibe and more importantly to empathise from your replies.

When I decided to embark on this activity, there were a couple of people who helped me. And Ashwini was one of those angels. He is also the second person to fill the questionnaire and first to do so by disclosing his name.

Over the next few months (perhaps even years) I will be sharing forms that have cropped up for the questionnaire. They will be in no order of preference of priority – all too random.

Hence, First up: Ashwini Dodani

Q: What is your idea of perfect happiness?

A: Anything which gives me peace. From music to travel to spending time with loved ones. Or sometimes just being alone.

Q: What is your most marked characteristic?

A: Being emotional.

Q: What do you consider your greatest achievement?

A: All the silent good deeds which gave me back wider smiles.

Q: What is your greatest fear?

A: Dying unloved enough. To know that I was loved, I want to feel it enough.

Q: What historical figure do you most identify with?

A: Probably that I’d like my friends to describe. Some say Tushar Kapoor, lol! I say Plath, maybe.

Q: Which living person do you most admire?

A: Shah Rukh Khan

Q: Who are your heroes in real life?

A: My mother, family & a few friends who have really earned it all the way.

Q: What is the trait you most deplore in yourself?

A: Being too available, sometimes.

Q: What is the trait you most deplore in others?

A: Unkindness


Q: What is your favorite journey?

A: The one which ends up into happy reality.

Q: What do you consider the most overrated virtue?

A: Physical Beauty

Q: Which word or phrases do you most overuse?

A: Arey yaar, Ridiculous, Jaane de, Chhod na, Shit, Lag gaye

Q: What is your greatest regret?

A: To be still not able to meet and apologize at least once, to all those who left me, just because I want to get over that load of my mind. Apologize for all the times I hurt them.

Q: What is your current state of mind?

A: Blah, need a break. From everything.

Q: If you could change one thing about your family, what would it be?

A: Nothing. I am because they are, the way they always have been.

Q: What is your most treasured possession?

A: I don’t have very strong attachment with things, I believe more in doing good. Maybe that?

Q: What do you regard as the lowest depth of misery?

A: To be not be able to extend help when you really can or want to. But something ruins it. It can be consequence, availability or even time/choice.

Q: What is your favorite occupation?

A: Writing | Reading | Social Media | Advertising | Marketing | Learning

Q: What is the quality you most like in a man?

A: Kindness

Q: What is the quality you most like in a woman?

A: Kindness

Q: What are your favorite names?

A: Say what? What’s in the name?

Q: What is your motto?

A: Spread the word.


Ashwini also has recently started a publication on Medium and it has been receiving participation from various writers. If you too like the idea of it then do check it out here: From the Poet’s Heart

If you liked the idea of Proust Questionnaire itself then you can fill it  up here: Proust Questionnaire

Until next time.


%d bloggers like this: